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When Ancient History Meets Crowdfunding a Mobile App

When I was going through some tough times, I read and re-read this book about gay history. It gave me this feeling of being connected to something bigger than me. I’ve traveled from Sappho’s birthplace on the island of Lesvos in Greece to Harvey Milk’s store in the Castro District of San Francisco following that feeling of connection to my community. This is a huge part of what inspired me to become an activist.

I know not everyone is interested in history and wouldn’t actively seek out websites about this information or proactively search for places that tweet about it. That’s why I want to create an engaging mobile app that will bring this rich history to the world in a new way.

The LGBToday app will feature a story from “today in history.” For example, if today were January 13, when you open the app you will see that on January 13, 1958, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled on its first decision on a gay issue. For each event there would be a one-sentence description of the event, an image or video if available, a link to more information about the story, a cited source, a map of where in the world it happened, and more. For days with more than one event, one would randomly to be chosen to show up, but you could click to read the other(s). You can learn all about it at the fundraising page and the website. Of course, you can give the project a like and a follow, too.

I truly believe this project can help make some gay youth out there feel a little less lonely. Please donate and share the link to make sure that happens.

If you are a blogger or other press, please download the press release.

12 Communicationist Contributions of 2012

Today on 12/12/12, I continue my annual tradition at looking back at my year of giving. I do this not to brag, but give some attention to the causes I care about and to hold myself accountable to make sure I always walk the walk and give back. You can read 11 Communicationist Contributions of 2011 to catch up.

I didn’t make a donation or volunteer my time to the Washington Animal Rescue League (WARL), but I helped them in their mission to rehome homeless animals. I adopted two cats (and paid their adoption fees) and am so happy to be giving them a home. I’m especially touched by Nemo’s story — WARL had a choice of either performing an expensive surgery to amputate his leg or give up on him and they chose to save him. When we visited the shelter for the first time he was recovering from his week-ago amputation and they were caring for him so well and we wanted to help. After a rough first month at home with many vet visits, he’s doing great with his little brother, Moo.

I attended Heartly House’s annual Walk A Mile in Her Shoes event. (Heartly House is a domestic violence and sexual assault center in Frederick, MD.) Men walk a mile in high heels to raise awareness and funds for violence against women issues. It was really one of the best events I’ve ever been to! I love seeing allies who don’t need to stick up for an underserved population doing it anyway. My pictures are here. They had a fun way to donate – Vote with your dollars for the best dressed man. I voted for a mustached man in red pumps.

I wrote about my January 29 speaking engagement in this blog post. I am so proud to have volunteered in this way and recommend it to anyone with a story to tell.

I had the opportunity to attend the National Sexual Assault Conference in Chicago during August. While I was there, I bought a T-shirt to support A Long Walk Home, an organization empowering girls who have survived violence.

 

I made a donation to support the Poplar Spring Animal Sanctuary when I attended their vegan potluck Thanksgiving event in Poolesville, MD. There was a feast for the turkeys! Cute pictures of rescued farm animals are here.

 

I had somehow never heard of Movember before this year. My friend Matt kept posting about it on his Facebook wall til I clicked and was convinced to donate. It was actually my very first time giving to a men’s cause. (The idea is that you grow a mustache for the month of November to raise awareness and funds for prostate cancer.) When I went home for Thanksgiving I found out that my dad was participating and I ended up posting it to my own Facebook and sparking several more donations from Facebook friends.

 

This was my Kickstarter sponsorship of the year — An interactive theatre piece by my amazing writer friend Danielle Staubitz. She got funded!

 

This year I saw many individuals fundraising for their medical bills. I’m happy to see this trend of crowdfunding expanding in this way and wish I could have given to everyone. I made one small donation via GiveForward to the relative of a colleague undergoing cancer treatment.

 

A highlight of 2012 was my friend from Germany coming to visit the Americas. We toured Maryland, DC, Virginia, and West Virginia together, and then also a few days in Mexico! It was such a treat. We spent one night at Hotel Istirincha, which preserves land and wildlife. The state of Veracruz works with the hotel to help wild green sea turtles survive. My friend and I got to take part in releasing 100 baby turtles into the sea, an experience I will never forget.

I continued to re-loan my Kiva funds to individuals and groups on the site. I made a loan in January to the San Blas group from an organization I spent the summer of 2005 with, Fundacion Paraguaya. I also loaned to a women’s collaborative in Tanzania in September.

 

The organization I gave the most to this year was Marylanders for Marriage Equality, a coalition working to pass Question 6  in Maryland. I volunteered several hours during early voting days and Election Day in Bowie, MD and created a fundraising page that raised $270 from seven of my friends and family members. The emotional hours on the line and phone-banking were absolutely worth it.

Happy Birthday to Equality

Today is my birthday. I know what you’re thinking. Wow, you were born on National Lighthouse Day? How cool is that! Believe it or not, I thought there was something even cooler about it.

There’s a trend to use birthdays as fundraisers for your cause. Razoo is leading the way in this. For many adults like me, birthdays have become the day when your Facebook timeline is getting new messages every few minutes. Most of those people wouldn’t be giving you a gift at all, but as I learned today, they would be willing to make a small donation to a non-profit in your name.

Since my wife and I recently moved to Maryland, a cause dear to my heart this year is marriage equality in Maryland. So I decided to donate my birthday to Marylanders for Marriage Equality. They saw that I had linked to their donation page and contacted me through Facebook asking if I’d like an individual fundraising page. I wrote some quick copy and it was live less than an hour later.

I’ve gotten 3 contributions so far and each one of those donors shared the page on their Facebook too. Birthday fundraising pages are a quick and easy way to make the ask so start thinking about where you want to donate your birthday.

Note: This post was co-written with the cat I adopted from the Washington Animal Rescue League last week. All credit is shared with Nemo Prager.

Speaking Out More Effectively

My views on activism have evolved significantly in the last few years. In college, I protested on the streets regularly, but I became discouraged when it didn’t seem to change anything. I tried phonebanking, calling legislators, street canvassing, and other outreach methods. But what I ultimately found is that living my daily life had the largest effect of all. By boycotting the meat industry in my diet, I helped meat consumption to drop in the U.S. By supporting ethical companies with my dollars, I helped workers earn a living wage. By living as out, I helped the national support level for same-sex marriage rise above 50%.

That’s why my most recent volunteering experience was with SpeakOUT, an LGBT speakers bureau founded in 1972. We simply tell our life stories to anyone who asks to listen. I did my first speaking engagement with them on January 29 for a group of Samaritans-in-training. I spoke for just about 5 minutes about my life story (yes, 20-somethings have life stories, too) and then answered questions for an hour. I was part of a panel with two other speakers. Between us, we told stories of everyday life, suicide, church, domestic violence, marriage, divorce, dating, and coming out. Some in the group of listeners had never met an out person before and they asked us the questions they would have been embarrassed to ask in any other setting. It was terrifying and empowering to speak and I can’t wait to do it again.

The way you live every day matters more than one action every once in a while. I still participate in fundraising walks and rallies occasionally, and there is nothing wrong with participating in public group actions, but the quiet form of activism can be the strongest.

Vintage Vignette: Civil Unions Article

Vintage Vignettes glimpse into the Communicationist’s past, one to ten years ago from this day.

On this day in 2005, I had an op-ed published in the Hartford Courant. Same-sex marriage wasn’t legal in Connecticut like it is today and I wrote about the ever-evolving history of the institution and why civil unions are not an acceptable substitute for full marriage equality. Looking back on this is a lesson in how quickly our own views can evolve (I already disagree with some of my parallels and terms), but I’m proud that I was able to do my part to get the message out to well over a million readers in my home state. Here is the link to the full piece and an excerpt:

I spent this past summer in Paraguay, where I met an American gay man who was living there with his Paraguayan partner. The couple met in the United States and they wanted to get married. But when the American’s partner’s visa expired, the only way they could continue to be together was to leave the country. If they had been straight, this American would not have had to make the choice between the partner he loves and the country he loves.

Many of us in Connecticut are wondering where civil unions, which became legal in the state today, come into all of this. Simply put, civil unions are separate and unequal. Some people call them a compromise, but when we compromise civil rights we create second-class citizens. That is what civil unions do: State that gays and lesbians are not worthy of full rights. As long as same-sex marriage is illegal, we will not be able to call ourselves a nation that is just.

Branding my Wedding

I learned a lot through the process of planning my wedding, like how to walk the line between being a detail-orientated planner and a detail-obsessed bride. But between negotiating contracts and placing orders, sometimes it felt more like a business experience than a personal one. Mass mailings (invitations), website design and writing (wedsite), brand identity (theme/color scheme), and obviously event planning.  It even involved writing for the press and video editing when we were selected to be featured in the New York Times (announcement and video here). It all reminded me a lot of the branding process at work.

In branding an organization or a wedding, you want to make sure that there is a cohesive feel to all of the materials without getting matchy-matchy. Open and frequent (but not too frequent) communication with your constituents/guests as well as your partners/vendors is key. Most importantly, you need to have a strong base of knowing who you are as an organization or as a couple to be able to come up with any of this. Our wedding stayed true to who we are: environmentally-friendly, vegan, personal, and just a little silly. I wouldn’t necessarily say we are casually elegant, though that is the feel we were going for.

Beyond Raising Awareness

Frank Mugisha (see my past posts about consulting with him here and here) presented his new PowerPoint presentation last night at Arlington Street Church. He was part of a panel succinctly titled “Crisis in Uganda: Trans-Atlantic Parallels of Homophobia and Racism: the Export of a US Conservative Agenda to Uganda.”

Frank’s mission is to save lives of persecuted GLBTI Ugandans. When your PowerPoint is trying to aid a cause like that, you have to make sure that the presentation of your message does justice to your content. Frank’s original PowerPoint was already solid, but we can all benefit from an outside perspective.

What we really noticed was the importance of adding a clear call to action in a new final slide. Frank’s presentation is extremely moving with many personal stories painfully illustrating the dangers of being out in Uganda. Every audience member wants to help in some way by the end, but didn’t know how. I can’t stress enough how important the close is — Get that ask in! Many of us in the field of do-gooding don’t feel comfortable making a hard sell. It can feel like it cheapens the difficult and sensitive work that we do with the community to turn that community into a marketing point to ask for money, but think of it as another part of advocacy. You want to advance your mission and expand its work and getting the word out there is just the first part. Turning that awareness into action whatever your goal may be (Donate! Contact your representative! Sign the petition!) doesn’t make you corporate, it makes you a champion of your cause.

 

Meeting Frank Mugisha

Following up on our phone call, my supervisor and I were able to meet with Frank Mugisha, Executive Director of Sexual Minorities Uganda, at our offices in Boston. He is here for a week and we are helping him with his PowerPoint presentation that he will be delivering twice while he’s here.

My supervisor and I have been working hard on our edits to his original presentation, even over the weekend. The meeting went really well and he likes all of our suggestions. We were able to really solidify what the call to action at the end is and turn it into a strong last slide. I’ll be attending his presentation later this week to see how it goes.